Cats.

May. 13th, 2011 08:48 am
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Trekkiegirl and I are starting to work out details of the after-wedding plans, and we've decided to get cats. I suggested hitting up the shelters in the area.

Trekkiegirl, who is allergic to most cats and has grown up showing dogs, has convinced me to find a reasonably-priced breeder for hypoallergenic cats. It's not a bad idea, considering her allergies, and it'd be best for house cats to grow up together, so we'll be picking up a pair of kittens.

She has gravitated towards Devon Rexes, as they're relatively hypoallergenic. She originally wanted Sphynxes, but after a couple searches, she fell in love with these cats.

And really, who could blame her?



With the fact that both of us work, a pair of kittens would be best. We'd take time off initially to help them acclimate; my mother can also be conscriped to come catsit for a bit.

I've always wanted to get a pet, honestly, ever since we got rid of our old cat back in 1990. I didn't realize this until I was talking about cats with my family this week, actually, but she was my cat. There is, of course, a story behind it.

I was very little, and my parents used to take us to the adopt-a-pet store in the mall and pretend we were going to the zoo. I was two years old at the time, and didn't know it wasn't the zoo, and would always get very excited about getting to pet the animals.

According to my dad, one day I raced over to a cat and picked her up in precisely the way cats don't like to be held. This cat...did nothing. She just drooped over my arms, purring.

If they were ever to get a cat, my parents figured, this would be it. If she didn't mind being manhandled by small boys. So they bought her and named her Lindy. Or, as I always remember my dad referring to her, Lindy El Gato O'Shea. That was her full name.

She was a very understanding cat. Very forgiving. From the time I was two until about five, I very distinctly remember she would always play with me, and there was specifically one time I remember pulling her tail. I don't remember if it was an accident or not - I was threeish, who knows - but I remember her leaping away, glowering at me, and leaving the room. I was upset, of course, and my parents scolded me and told me that it hurt her to do that.

I immediately rushed to apologise to Lindy. She glared at me, but let me approach her, and I gave her a big hug and she purred. She had forgiven me immediately.

To this day, I don't remember what happened to her. My parents told my sister and I that they had to give her to a friend of theirs when my brother was born, and we were promised to go visit her someday, and we never did. I'm not certain if this was the truth; I was five and my sister had either just turned seven or was about to, and if Lindy had died I don't know if we would have been told the truth. I'm leaning towards it being true, though, and we just never had the time. My parents never really sheltered us from bad things; if she had died, I'm sure they would have sat us down and explained what that meant.

I'm hoping that when we get these Devon Rexes, Trekkiegirl and I can strike a deal. I hope to name one Lindy.
alliancesjr: (*squee*)
Well, it's been a week since Lore1 and I got engaged, and I figure it's a good time to sit down and talk about it.

First up: DETAILS.

Earlier in the relationship, when we first started thinking that this would probably be long-term if all went well and we knew that was our goal, she gave me a claddagh2 to wear on a chain around my neck, and told me that I would be giving it back to her for one of two reasons. I have since worn it every day, and it has been a comforting presence when, say, I've been stressed due to having crazy hours at my two jobs.

New Year's Eve, I got back from my father's birthday dinner - we went to Wildfire, so we got all dressed up and were the classiest people who ever existed (CHECK OUT THOSE GQMFs GODDAMN) - and I got a call from Lore saying she needed to go to the treatment center, she was having a massive anxiety attack. I picked her up and took her there. While we were in the exam room - myself dressed to the nines, she in whatever she could toss on in a hurry - she asked me for the ring back. I took a knee and put it on her finger, and we couldn't stop smiling for the rest of the night.

A few days later, I called my mother to tell her. She was surprised and ecstatic and couldn't wait to tell my father and Cheer Sister3. That evening, we went to Lore's parents' for dinner and we told them then; they, too, were happier than I've ever seen anyone ever. We spent the rest of dinner simultaneously answering questions and trying to fend off instructions on how we must do a humongous, "proper" wedding.

That brings me to a point; the two of us? Not very traditional people. In fact, I'd go so far as to say that we dislike following tradition merely for the sake of tradition. If we're going to do something, it's because it either means something to us, or we really want to do it. Probably both at the same time. It also is starting to be an issue because we'd both like to keep the wedding relatively small, and unfortunately we're both from Irish Catholic families (read: LAAAAAAAAAARGE). To give you an idea of small, we were originally thinking fifteen people each, but that's been dashed completely.

What we're now looking at is this: Family Only. Which, of course, means I must retract a few pre-emptive invitations made to a bunch of people. Unless, of course, things change again; we've only been engaged for a week now, and we're looking at a year and a half from now, so who knows?

I'm really really excited now, and I'm gathering up a whole bunch of wedding planning materials, because I'm a huge girl about it and I think it's awesome. I already asked my parents if the reception (or possibly just party 'cause we want to keep it casual and informal) could be held at their house/backyard, and they were thrilled at the idea. The wedding itself might also be held there; that solves two scheduling problems right there. I picked up a planning book and a binder and will start organizing and gathering information as much as possible; I'm in heavy research mode right now.

So excited.



  1. Laura is Trekkiegirl's name, yes, and she goes by Lore because she is a huge Trekkie. This tells you everything you need to know about her.

  2. As she is not a Buffy fan, she had no idea why I was laughing when she gave it to me. That was an interesting bit of backpedaling for me let me tell you this.

  3. Who called me back later that evening as soon as she got home and found out. I could hear her bouncing up and down over the phone, she was so excited.

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